To Write Love On Her Arms

I would like a white tank top with a colorful words of "To Write Love On Her Arms." Unfortunately, Hot Topic doesn't have the specific shirt I want.

I've been meaning to discuss about this for quite some time but never got around to it. However, now that I'm home alone for the whole night and chill my ass on my bed, I decided to grab this chance to talk about it (I actually can't remember if I had discussed about this before, did I?). For those of you who don't know what is "To Write Love on Her Arms," it is a movement where they find help and hope for the victims who are experiencing (or had experienced) addiction, suicide, self-injury, and depression. According to this website, 121 million people worldwide suffer from depression; Between 20% and 50% of children and teens struggling with depression have a family history of this struggle and the offspring of depressed parents are more than three times as likely to suffer from depression (however, this research was found in 1999, and it should have 2011 statistics). Lastly, depression often co-occurs with anxiety disorders and substance abuse, with 30% of teens with depression also developing a substance abuse problem.

I'm sure some of you had experience depression or anything else mentioned above. Those who suffers from it, my friends, I know life may not be what you wanted and expected to. You may feel like you've fallen into a long abyss. You've tried and tried to climb high but only slipped down again and again. You wish someone can help you, but there are times when no one come to help you. This happens, because they don't know what to do anymore. So, don't WAIT for people to throw the rope down the abyss for you and pull you up. "Nobody can help you if you can't help yourself," the phrase I heard countless times. YOU, with an effort, will need to climb the rope. You may receive love and support, but you'll need to work for it. You need to realize that you need to help yourself. Don't give up, because you'll never know you'll see a light. Even,

Suicide is not the answer. Suicide can intensely impact your loved ones. You know what I read about suicide couple of years ago? There was a book I read called, "Pitch Black: Color Me Lost." There was a quote that forever changed my perspective: "'the brave thing to do is to live and face things than it is to take the easy way out if you commit it...then what if it turns out to be a big mistake....what if everything ends up way worse than what you've right now.....and what if you wish you'd never done it, but it's too late....you're stuck....no turning back.........for you to kill yourself is kind of like a slap on people's face....you feel its so hard for you to live and cant take it anymore then that is because you're doing it all alone and you'll need to start opening up to your friends about how your feeling.....you don't try suicide once you do it, its a done deal and if you don't like it, that's too bad can't you see that....death is a permanent condition....instead of having pact to die, make a pact to live....'" I hope that slapped your face (attempting to lighten up the topic, unsuccessfully, eh?).

Those who have friends who are the victims and don't know what to do with that person, I know it's tough. I know you guys can be helpless most of the times. However, these friends who are the victims want to be loved, heard, supported, and more. Unfortunately, some people walked away from them. It's really understandable,but at the same time, it sucks. When a person shows symptoms of self-injury, depression, addiction, or whatever, it's your option to help him/her. Honestly? Yes, it would be tiring after some time, but then, it's your friend. Good friend, best friend, or whatever you consider him/her as. Walking away and ignoring are not the answers to help him her (yet, it still depends on the situations, eh? hypocrisy, I know.), in my opinion.

Generally, when you come across with a person who has an addiction, depression, etc, please avoid your own harsh judgement. It is because you don't know the whole story. You're basically judging by its cover and don't even bother to read the whole book, right? Everyone has his or her reasons. There was a day when I came across with a very aggressive child. He was an child who used a lot of profanity. I didn't like that child, but then at the same time, I knew he has his reasons for acting like that. Eventually, I found out he was neglected and verbally abused by his own parents. His own fucking father cursed at his face and ignore his cry. I'm quite sure he was having a very difficult time to express his feelings, so he expressed it wrongly. If that child is not helped, he could possibly will become an aggressive teenager in the future. According to Psychology, it's called: Cycle of Violence Hypothesis. I firmly believe that hypothesis. Again, please don't judge by its cover. You don't know the whole story, and every one has his or reasons. You don't have to be their friend if you barely know them (your options), but don't judge too harsh. I've learned this lesson on my own 3 years ago.

 

The light will be at the end of the tunnel, with an effort, you will find it.

 

"No matter what, there is always hope," -my Psychology professor, Dr. Ano

I've been this for over an hour and just blabbing around. I hope you don't mind.